Dear Eric: I’m 51 years old. I’ve been dating a man for 2½ years now. After a year, he moved in to help with the mortgage. Most of the time he pays, but if he misses a month and I ask about it, he gets angry, which I find to be a very strange reaction.

There’s a difference between being a workaholic and being a person who isn’t prepared to be an equal partner in a relationship. It seems he’s the latter and if he isn’t interested in learning how to show up for you, you have to show up for yourself and show him the door.