Dear Annie: My husband has always seemed “old for his age.” For years, I managed the household while he worked full-time, but when he retired, I expected him to pitch in more with chores. That expectation has become our biggest source of conflict. He struggles to keep up with my energy, and I feel like he holds me back.

We never really fought, but that was because he’s a narcissist and a gaslighter. I stayed quiet to keep the peace. Years ago, he made a significant mistake, and while I initially blamed myself, I later realized I wasn’t responsible for his actions.